Change Your Metaphors, Change Your Life
Metaphor or Simile?
A large part of self-understanding is the search for appropriate personal metaphors that make sense of our lives. It's easy to confuse metaphors with similes. A metaphor is a figure of speech that allows us to understand one element of experience in terms of another. If you find yourself saying that one thing is like another, that's a simile.
Examples
For example, a computer "mouse," unless you've got a live rodent on the loose, is a metaphor. The word stands for something other than what it is. A "smile like sunshine" is a simlie (one letter difference between smile and simile). It compares or likens one thing to another.
Imagine talking about your life in terms of a garden. Someone asks you a question you don't want to answer: "Sorry, I've planted that in my private garden." You're talking about a difficult challenge in your life: "It's a tough row to hoe." Things are looking good: "Everything's coming up roses." (Hmm. What if you're allergic to roses?)
Notice the difference between these two:
- She's a social butterfly.
- She's like a butterfly, always flitting from one social event to another.
The image a metaphor evokes usually conveys more meaning with fewer words than a simile.
Metaphor or Analogy?
Metaphors are driven by intution, involve images, and provide lots of room for free association. Analogies are more structural/functional and are carried out through rational thinking. Analogies reduce ambiguity by relating the commoness of two different things and bridge the gap between image and logic (Nonaka, 1994). For example, if we use a chart to compare the characteristics of dialogue with those of discussion or debate, we would be using analogy.
Why Metaphors Matter
Metaphors matter because they set the framework for our thinking, thus our lives. If you are vying with someone for a job, notice the difference when you think of that competition as "war" versus thinking of it as an opportunity to "display your colors" (a thought taken from the world of birding). A metaphor relates concepts that are far apart in an individual’s memory. In this way it plays an important role in associating abstract, imaginary concepts.



